Wednesday, 7 June 2017


Be a woman other women can trust.
Have the courage to tell another woman directly when she has offended, hurt or disappointed you. 

Successful women have a loyal tribe of loyal & honest women behind them. Not haters. Not backstabbers or women who whisper behind their back. Be a woman who lifts other women.

-Sophia A. Nelson

Saturday, 14 January 2017

L O V E.

Love Cindy is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not 

boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others. Love Cindyis 

not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

Love Cindy does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 

 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there 

are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Sunday, 1 January 2017


Set Some Goals. Stay quiet about them, Smash the shit out of them, Clap for your damn self.

Saturday, 3 December 2016

Stop indulging the birthday monster.

I love birthdays, mine and of those people I like or love. I look at mine as a big reminder to say 'Heck yeah! I was born on this day! There is no one like me' and when it comes to celebrating other's birthdays I think of it as 'I'm so glad you were born, I'm so glad you are in my life!' type of thing. I don't expect others to love their birthdays like I love mine, but I also think it's weird when people don't like their birthdays.

Birthdays are great- everyone tells you that 'it's your day', people calls you, friends post a million messages on your timeline and tell you how great you are and people give you presents, present you with good food and all that good stuff  and you believe the hype. You expect everyone should be nice to you and celebrate 'your day' with you, right ? You expect friends to make a big fuss over your birthday and then you are let down when it doesn’t happen. 

I'll be honest, I'm so over this approach to my birthday and have been for a years now. I don't want what people do for me to be directly linked to how I enjoy my birthday. I think there should be a fine balance. I've gotten to the point where I know that wanting my birthday to be a special day is really my thing and no one else's. So if I want it to be a special day, I'm the one responsible for that energy, and what others do is their participation and nothing else.

Stop ruining your birthdays. Stop getting worked up because someone didn't call you. Stop getting worked up you bought someone a present and they didn't get you anything. Stop expecting friends and family to make a big deal out of your birthday. If you love your birthday and want to celebrate, great, but don't guilt people into celebrating with you. Stop setting yourself up for disappointment  Stop dropping birthday-wishlist hints and don't expect them to be as jazzed up about your day as you are. On the flip side, if you hate your birthday, don't constantly bitch and moan about it. Birthdays mean different things to people. People's lives are complex and you just can't expect everyone to turn up.

I'm not saying every person should sort themselves out, I love gifting people, especially  people that least expect it. I hate it when people ask 'What are you going to buy me for my birthday?' because I always feel guilt-tripped into buying presents when it should just be organic. You want people to buy you stuff and make you feel special? Great, but when last did you go out of your way to make someone's special? I approach my birthday each year with the lowest of expectations, without preparation, and  I am always pleasantly surprised by the thoughtfulness of a few people here and there. As others have said, nurture a handful of friendships, and moderate your expectations. 

Sunday, 15 May 2016

Faith meets Africa meets Fashion meets Diversity.

This weekend our church had its annual Women's Conference  #SHE and the theme was She Ignites. The Conference is usually a three-day event and the first day of Conference usually has a themed dress code. This year's theme was Africa, I thought I should share some of the visuals from the Conference with you guys.  

Our First Lady, Pastor Nyretta Boshoff

Event: CRC's Women's Conference, #SHE.
Theme: She Ignites.
Photo Credit: CRC Main.

Sunday, 24 April 2016

Twenty Five Bookish Facts About Me.

One: Before I buy a book, I check out its rating on Goodreads first. If a book has a score over 4.0 I will probably buy it.

Two: I want to start a Book club or join one but I don’t like the pressure of having to read specifically something.

Three: I prefer paperbacks over hardbacks. Hardbacks look nicer on the bookshelf but paperbacks are easier to carry around and are more comfortable to read.

Four: I have never listened to an audio book.

Five: Believe it or not, I don't have a favorite genre. I like Contemporary Romance, Politics, Biographies, African fiction. I cannot decide which one.

Six: Talking about books on Twitter or basically any other social site is easy. But real life book talk? My brain turns to mush.

Seven: I read the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy three times. Christian Grey, hello?

Eight: I never snack or drink while reading a book. Keeping my books in good condition is important to me. Which brings me to my next point.

Nine: I won't lend my books to just anyone. Not if I can help it.

Ten: I don't go to the library. I should support my local library and my bank balance would thank me immensely, but I’m not big fan of borrowing books for some reason.

Eleven: I am obsessed with Book photography, I find it therapeutic to just look at pictures of  bookshelves and books.

Twelve: I am morning reader. The silence, hello? I am usually awake by 5am reading a book.

Thirteen: I take book recommendations seriously. If you recommend a book to me, I will definitely check it out.

Fourteen: I prefer original book covers. I will never buy a book with a movie cover.

Fifteen: We all read for different reasons - reading for me is all about gaining perspective. I love to be taken away by books and encounter people and places I perhaps otherwise wouldn't in my day to day life

Sixteen: Book snobs are a pet peeve of mine..

Seventeen: Animal Farm, Lord of the Flies and Othello are the three books that have influenced the way I see people.

Eighteen:The more I love a book, the harder is it for me to watch the movie adaptation.

Nineteen: Too much description is a turn off for me. Maybe that's why I don't read Science Fiction

Twenty: I would prefer it if people don't lend me their books. I am a mood-reader, I read what I want, when I want to. I would hate to keep someone's book for a year. So please, I know you love your book and you think everyone should read it but please don't lend it to me.

Twenty one: I cannot remember the last time I didn't have anything to read.

Twenty two: I didn't cry when I read the Fault in Our Stars but I sobbed uncontrollably after I read Me Before You.

Twenty three:  I will never read Mills and Moons or any of those cheap, tacky Romance Books. 

Twenty four: I get the worst book hangovers. That feeling of sadness after you finish reading a book and leave a world that you were completely consumed by.

Twenty five: Lastly, I am guilty of judging books by their covers.

Do you have any interesting Bookish Facts about yourself? Please share them in the comment section. I like stuff like that.