Saturday, 30 June 2012

A Letter to my 16 year old self :)

Dear 16 year old me.
Greetings from the future, I have a few things I need to tell you. Some you will want to hear (God has great plans for your life) and some you will not want to hear (you have verbal diarrhea) but these are the things I think you would want to know. I don't know where to begin though, you have been so brainwashed...

Discover the God of your being
I know you are on fire for God and sometimes it feels like you are the only one but don't let that stop you from following Christ. Don't be hesitant or ashamed to serve God boldly and ignore those people that think that you are taking this 'Jesus thing' too seriously. You will soon learn that the very same people that insist on making a mockery of your love for Christ are the first people that will run to you for prayers when they have problems. It is so critical that you develop a relationship with God. Your confidence and identity lies in Him. When you are not confident with who you are in Him it creates a sense of insecurity/instability in other areas. This uncertainty that you have about who you are in Him can create jealousy of others, this causes you to discredit what God is doing in your life and accuse Him of being unfair. Listen, God has plans for you. You were carefully and intentionally designed with a specific purpose in mind. It's so important that you sit at His feet and seek Him whole-heartedly to get to that purpose.
 Your attitude matters
 Cindy I know you think you have to say everything you are thinking but trust me, your opinion doesn’t always matter. Stop being be such a mean girl or rather calling 'a spade a spade' as you like to call it. It’s great to be honest and all but learn to be sensitive towards other people's feelings. You haven't made an effort to be nice to others and you take every chance to show that you know better. No one likes a ‘know it all’ so stop being such a 'know it all' and actually treat others like you want to be treated. Love a lot cause it turns out that love is pretty darn important, it’s the one emotion at the root of all things- even hate stems from love.
Speaking of LOVE
Those love affairs you see on TV and movies have brainwashed you. Get those thoughts out of your mind; you are nowhere near emotionally ready for a relationship. Get to know yourself in Christ first; Matthew 6v33 says we should seek first the Kingdom of God. I want you to study word for word how God sees you and I want you to begin to see yourself that way, you will be AMAZED to see how highly God thinks of you. Before you can get into a relationship you need to know your value, YOUR VALUE comes from God and God alone. There are so many things that God wants to teach you about love, TRUE LOVE, his love, how he purposed it to be between a man and a woman but He cannot do that if when you have all these distractions.  So put guys aside for a long while and focus on your relationship with God. Don't allow yourself to get into unnecessary emotional relationships in other words; don't DATE JUST FOR FUN that is not God's desire.

Relationships can go so many unexpected directions and to be honest before you date someone you can say you are dating just for fun all you want but the minute you are in that relationship you will have little control over what your heart feels. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.". Engrave this scripture in your heart it, it will help you to choose your battles in the future as well, it is so important; it tells us to GUARD OUR HEARTS, protect it, shield your heart and spirit from that which is not of God., don’t let any Tom, Dick and Harry get a hold of it, keep it pure and in this case the best way to guard your heart is to avoid dating for fun. God did not intend for you to go  'falling in love' with every cute guy that comes your way, there is one guy out there who YOU should marry and there are a lot of guys YOU shouldn't. There will always be boys around you, but it's your job with God's help to filter through to meet MEN. Men who understand what it means to love God with all their heart because my darling, IF HE DOES NOT LOVE GOD, HE CANNOT LOVE YOU.
Remember this: We date because we see potential for marriage.
About your friendships
Love your friends, but don’t be sad if they drift away in the coming years. You will meet many more new friends at every stage of your life. Some of the old friends will come around again in surprising ways, and then before you know it, the new friends will be old ones too. Cherish the rich pageant of people you meet.
Just the way you are
If you ignore everything else in this letter, I want you to know this: You are just fine as you are, never try to change yourself for anyone or anything.

I Love you.
Older and much wiser you.
P.S About those blemishes, they will go away, it's just a phase. I know you think that is a cliche but trust me it will get better (strus bob), you are going to use a couple of wrong products for your face and it is going to get worse before it gets better BUT rest assured it will get better. Whenever you feel less pretty don't spend time in front of the mirror counting what is wrong, rather spend time in the mirror counting what is RIGHT, Nothing negative should come out of your mouth about yourself.
: Here is a picture of your face in a couple of years, NO PIMPLES, NO BLEMISHES, NO BLACKHEADS (and no, you don't have make up on):

Tuesday, 19 June 2012

My dream Husband

'Where have all the perfect princes gone? Perhaps only tenth of them come to every generation? From an early age I have had a clear picture of my husband-to be.

My ideal husband is a well-groomed man and handsome man. He is a fair in complexion with short hair. He has twinkly brown eyes that glow when he smiles his dazzling smile. His body is slim and toned and not overly muscular. His skin is as soft as a baby's bottom. He has soft, caressing hands that become as soft as steel when he has to protect his loved ones. His short, clean nails are as white as ivory. He does not have to be taller than me, but he has to carry himself well.

More importantly than his appearance though, is his personality. My ideal husband believes in honesty, love, compassion and romance. He is someone I can trust with my life; he is like a light at the end of a tunnel. A sense of humor is essential to cheer me up when I feel isolated and dejected. He will wipe away my tears, calm me down and remain me how much he loves and appreciates me. The man may be a mouse in stature but be a lion in strength. He should fight his own battles and will not mind sacrificing his pride when he really has to. The godly man I am talking about will have patience like a fisher man. He realizes that real men do cry and that real strength comes from within. My dream husband is not afraid to show affection. He does not get his sense of worth from the money in his bank account.
Still, my dream husband is quick-witted and successful- perhaps the CEO of a company. A trust worthy husband, he remembers his values and does not discard his ethics at the door of success. He does not sign reports he knows are untrue, does not conceal. In the boardroom he shows discretion and the ability to compromise.
I considerate husband knows the needs the support of his parents, spouse, siblings and children. At home he can mend, cook and clean. He even knows his way around the supermarket aisles. He is generous, respectful and caring man that I can bring home to my parents. He is disciplined and obeys the first commandment with a promise: 'Honor your father and mother.’ He is a well-respected member of the community and he comes from a righteous family. He has a good name- like scripture says: his ‘name is like perfume poured out.’
We all consider ourselves to be princesses. It is worthwhile for a true princess to wait patiently for your prince to sweep you off your feet- to love you and cherish you, to make you feel pretty and praiseworthy.'

This has got to be one of my favorite FAVOURITE things I have ever written. It was actually an essay which I wrote back in high school about my dream husband. As you can see the standards are pretty high,some things have changed though like the physical appearance cause I was actually describing someone LOL but most things have stayed the same. I wrote this article while I was at my best but over the years I have made mistakes. Does that mean I deserve less? NO! My past is irrelevant, that is the beauty of grace it makes life not fair.

Friday, 15 June 2012

How to walk in heels

Confession: I have never really been a heel girl. I only started wearing heels this year. I used to have a tendency of buying heels but end  up giving them away 'cause I have always been too much of a chicken to walk outside the house with them. lol... crazy I know. I've always thought I would fall or something. But this year I stepped out and did my thing and it actually felt good. Heels are amazing, can't believe I took so long to actually start rocking them. Anyway I thought it would be cool to post a blog in wearing heels. I wish someone has told me a couple of things before I started walking in them.


1. Start small and work your way up. Don't go from not ever having worn heels to slipping on some 4 inch stilettos. There are many heels to choose from, varying in height, thickness and shape. Training your feet will allow your ankles to develop the strength they need to walk safely and gracefully in high heels.


2. Choose your shoes carefully. Not all high heels are created equal. Stand in your shoes on a hard floor with your knees straight, and see if you can raise yourself on your toes an inch. If you can't, the heels are too high for you right now, and you shouldn't wear them. If you try to wear heels this tall, you'll end up walking with your knees bent forward, and that's a good way to get very sore, not to mention looking rather daft. You also want there to be just enough "breathing room" so you can add cushions in the soles later.

3. Take baby steps. Walking in the highest heels isn't like the walking you learned to do when you were a child, so you have to do a few things that might feel counterintuitive

  • Take small, slow steps, making sure not to bend your knees any more than you normally would. You'll notice that heels tend to shorten your stride a bit. The taller the heel, the shorter the stride ends up being.

  • Put your heel down first right before your toes (don't plop them down at the same time, and don't put your toes down first). Once your weight is on the balls of your feet, shift your weight forward, as if you're walking on your tip toes.

  • Keep your legs close together. Catwalk models will often cross one foot slightly in front of the other to give their hips a little more sway, but it'll take some extra practice to master this.

  • Stand with the heel of one foot touching the middle of the other foot, while cocked at an angle from it. Put your weight on the toe of the foot in back and when it gets tired, switch.

     4. Practice. Wear your heels for a day around the house before you wear them out. This will not only allow you to get used to wearing them, but it will also create scuffs on the bottom so that they're less slippery. Make sure you practice doing all the things you would normally do while walking, such as:

  • Changing direction. Walk, stop, pivot or turn around, and walk some more.

  • Expose your heels to different surfaces. You will likely need to walk on both floors and carpets and you may one day be expected to walk on a slippery, wooden floor so that you can...

  • Dance. If you're planning on wearing your heels to a nightclub or a party where you know you're going to want to boogie down, then dance to the beat of your own drummer in the privacy of your home until your comfortable shaking things up in your heels.

  • Don't forget about the stairs! Place your entire foot on each step as you come down the steps, but only place the ball of your foot on each step as you go up. Hold onto that railing gracefully, just in case.

  • Walking in heels indoors is very different to walking in them outdoors. Without the soft cushioning of carpet, or the flat even indoor surface of linoleum or wood, walking in heels can be ten times as difficult. Even minor surface flaws in tarmac will present difficulties, so try walking up and down outside your house a few times. A good place to practice after you've gotten the hang of it in your house is to wear your heels to the supermarket. Use your cart for balance!

    5. Add cushioning wherever there's a lot of pressure and/or friction. There are cushions made in various shapes and from different materials that you can stick on the inside of your shoe for more comfortable walking. Use them generously

    6. Give your feet a break. Sit down every twenty minutes or so. If you're in the bathroom, sit down. Don't take your heels off, this will only allow the pain to worsen. They swell a bit after you take them off, which makes it harder to continue after.Q

    QUESTION: At which age did you start wearing heels? and hows your first time?

    The higher your HEEL, the closer you are to Heaven  pain.

    Source: Please note that these tips are not my brains, I got them from Wikihow, here----> Wiki

    Friday, 1 June 2012

    The kind of friend I want to be

    Lately,  the topic of friendship has been laying very heavily on my heart. I have really been searching my heart to determine the kind of friend I want to be. The answer I keep coming up with over and over is that I want to impact people. I want them to be changed for the better because they know me. I want to encourage them, challenge them, and together pursue this thing called godliness. I have quit talking about the friends I want to have but instead I AM GOING TO PUT ALL MY efforts in becoming that friend that I want to have. We’d all be very surprised to find, I think, that if we devoted ourselves to being the kind of friends we want others to be for us, that we’d find the Lord piling around us more of the sorts of friends we want.

    This is the kind of friend I want to be:

    Picture with one of my longest friends: Kamo Snyman,I would not trade him for anything.

    Celebrate Successes.
    It’s a given that you show up and support a friend during hard times. But when things are going great—when she nailed that big project, landed her favourite job, got recognised for something she felt passionate about—it’s still important to be there, cheering on your friend and letting her know you share her happiness.

    The dreamer:
    I want to dream big dreams about career changes, building the Kingdom and travelling the world, and I want to help you find a way to make them all happen.
    I want to scream from the mountaintops that you are strong, you are capable, you are beautiful and you are full of potential and possibility.

    Be Vulnerable. You know that feeling when a friend calls you and she’s crying and needs you, and you say just the right thing to make it better? I love that. I always feel honoured when a friend chooses me to share vulnerabilities. There is a level of trust and loyalty that strengthens a friendship. But it goes both ways. Being vulnerable isn’t always easy, but I’ve learnt that when I genuinely share my heart—the good, the bad, the insecurities, the weaknesses, the moments of despair—it is welcomed by my friends. Women seek to relate to each other. We feel safe and free and challenged to be real when we realise others share moments like ours. The most beautiful moments I’ve shared with friends are always the raw and vulnerable ones.

    I want to be the friend who gets more excited for your birthday or Bachelorette party than you do. I highlighted this cause this is really how I really am,  I think I always get more excited about other people's birthdays far more than them. lol..

    I want to be the friend you can trust to keep her word, who makes time for you even when life gets hectic, who stands up for you no matter if you’re right or wrong. I want to be the kind of friend that you know I will never speak negatively behind your back. I want to be the kind of friend that is totally honest – even when it’s tough to be honest. Especially when it comes to offering my perspective on a relationship.

    I want to be your biggest supporter, your biggest cheerleader. I want to be the first person that likes the facebook page that you created. The first person that buys the ticket to your concert/performance. The first person that follows your blog. The first to visits your website. The first person to cheer you on and say: 'Well done, you are doing a great job CARRY ON'

    BitterSweet friend
    I want to be the kind of friend that laughs hysterically with a friend, I want to be that friend that you can totally be RANDOM with, but also will cry with you when you are going  through something difficult. CONFESSION: I hardly cry but a couple of years back a friend of mine went through something really heart-breaking and we weeped together, I love it, we became very close from that.

    I want to be the friend you know you can count on, the friend you can call because you are stuck somewhere with your car.

    MY BOYSSSSSSSS: The funniset friends that I have
    I want to be the friend that forgives easily and bears no grudges. Love keeps no record of wrong (1 Corinthians 13)
    I want to be a friend you can call just to say: 'Pray for me'. That friend you can pray with over the phone.

    I want to be a friend that knows when to talk, when to listen, when to shout, and when to whisper

    "Remember, your friends are a reflection of you." 
    Translation: If your friend has a reputation (good or bad) then it will carry on over to you - whether or not you believe, say or do all the things they do.
    "Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals." - 1 Corinthians 15:33