Saturday, 28 April 2012

I was tagged: get to know me...

I was recently passed along the The 11 Question Tag by one of my favorite bloggers Oluwaseun from MystyledExpressions! Thank you Oluwaseun!

The 11 Question Tag!!

The Rules:
Post the rules
You must post 11 random things about yourself.
Answer the questions that your tagger posted for you.
11 questions, then choose 11 people and tag them to answer your questions.
Remember to let them know you tagged them.
No tag backs...
Let the tagger know when you answered their questions

11 Random things about me
1.Winter is my favourite season because of the fashion

2. I love talking about relationships and human interaction

3. I want a tattoo! Personally I have never been much of a tattoo person because of the connotation around them plus I have never really understood why a person would want something permanently drawn to them I actually still don't, I really loath symbolic, Chinese, dragon,or and photo tattoos. Like REALLY loath them. But one thing I love is words. I've always loved words and I have often said that words are my life. So the idea of having my favourite quote or saying or even a scripture permanently on my body does not turn me off at all. The tricky part is choosing the best quote and where I want to have it, I want it small and easily hidden because tattoo's are not really helpful when it comes to getting a employment. I also want something that I will not have to explain all the time, I love simple quotes with a powerful message in any way.
I also blogged about it here: T.A.T.O.O

4. I am typing this blogpost with an empty stomach- I am so hungry but I wanna finish up first.

5. I'm an early bird. Unless something really exciting is happening, I'm in bed by 9pm and I always wake up early like 5am.

6. I guess you could say I'm a bit of a neat freak. I can't stand when I am around a mess. I've been this way as long as I can remember. I annoy myself, I wish I can be comfortable with a bit of untidiness like some people. It can be a bit annoying sometimes, haha.

7.When speaking I often mash words together that make no sense at all. People that know me usually laugh at me.
8. .My husband can't be soft or weak or I will walk all over him unknowingly, my PERSONALITY is REALLY STRONG

9. I admire the God in people, it puts a smile on my face and pushes me to do better.

10. I love reality shows but I dislike how I can get so addicted to them

11. I am in constant re-evaluation of myself! I want to be exactly what God wants me to be, but I mess up sometime, which is fine His grace and mercy always picks me. Don't you just love GRACE and MERCY?

and a BONUS: I am not bilingual; I don't speak life and death, I SPEAK LIFE!

11 Question from Oluwaseun from MystyledExpressions!

1. What was your favorite food when you were a child?
Lasagna. Cheese + Mince= Great combination.

2. Do you have any siblings? If yes, how many?
Yes, I have one beautiful sister, her name is Liziwe Saul

3. What’s the #1 most played song on your iPod?
Chasing after you by tye tribbett, I play it every day when I spent time with Dad (God)

4. What is one of your favourite quote?
Oh... don't get me started on quotes, I can go on forever, I love words but here is one:

“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”
Maya Angelou

5. My favourite indoor and outdoor activity?
Reading, blogging, movies and my favourite outdoor activities are swimming and extreme sports

6. What chore do you absolutely hate doing?
Let us just say the first I am gonna purchase with my first salary is a DISHWASHER.

7. What is your favourite form of exercise?
Jogging makes me feel amazing

8. What is your favourite time of day/day of the week/month of the year?
I love that part of the day when I get home and have a chat with my mommy about my day or her day. She has the funniest work stories!!

9.. What’s your least favourite mode of transportation?
I know I am expected to say public transportation but it really isn't. I enjoy public transportation because I get to meet different people, I believe that is develops my character to come across different people ( people are not the easiest thing to deal with so I love passing those tests).

10.What do you love most about yourself?
My smile and how a love laughing, I tend to crack myself up, I laugh very easily.

11. What sound do you love?
The best sound ever, at church when thousands of us young people sing to Jesus and Kim Walker's laugh

I am only gonna tag a few people because most of my followers have already gotten the tag :)

My  Questions
1 What is the one physical feature that you get complimented on most often?
2 What are the 5 most important things in your life?
3 How superstitious are you?
4 What is the funniest thing that has ever happened to you?
5 What is your one achievement that makes you the most proud?
6 What three things would you take with you to an island?
7 What is your worst dating experience?
8 Define your fashion style
9 Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
10 Are you a night owl or a morning person?
11 If you could travel to anywhere in the world, where would it be?

'Worry about your Character not your reputation. Character is who you are, reputation is what others think of you.'~ Anonymous 

Friday, 20 April 2012

Serving God in black and white...

If you have read my blog post on some of my aspirations for 2012 you will know that one of the things I really wanted to do this year was to choose a ministry to serve in at my local church and I am THRILLED announce that I did and it is the Counselling Ministry!! I am so excited that God is gonna put this big mouth of mine to good use! Although I do a lot of ministry work out side the church, going in and out of church on Sundays was not doing it for me anymore. God really put a desire in me join a ministry at church. 

black and white in our main colour. So I took a couple of pics in my counselling attire. I love the woman I am becoming...
When I say that I am a Christian I don't mean that I  SPEAK about Christ, I want to say I am a Kingdom-builder. I am not just a church goer, I am a builder.

 I don't want to go to church JUST to receive, I want to go to church to GIVE. It is more blessed to give than it is to receive

" prepare God's people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up..." - Ephesians 4:12

“Before turning down a request to serve because you feel you are too busy, you might want to … simplify somewhat and make a new appraisal of what you really consider essential. Reconsider your priorities and remember your covenants with the Lord wherein you have covenanted to give of your time, talents, and means liberally to the up building of the kingdom of God.

Sometimes in the Church of Jesus Christ our first response when we hear that we need to contribute in church we automatically think of money, but there are so many other ways we can give service. Each of us have been given talents from the Lord that we should develop and use to serve God and others. Examine your life and see what talents you have. What are you good at? How could you use your talents to help those around you? Can you sing? You could join the church choir. Are you good with children? Offer to service in the children's church.  Or like me, are you good with communication, do you love encouraging people? Join the counselling ministry at your local church. The Church is the bride of Christ and Christ wants us to take care her so let's all jump in and do our part!

"Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God's grace in its various forms." - I Peter 4:10

Thursday, 19 April 2012

Why I don't date for fun and why I do not think anyone else should not!!

Last year while staying late up on campus a friend of mine happened to mention that she wants a boyfriend on campus, the way she said it sounded like she just wanted to date for fun which got me thinking... we have really lost the purpose of dating! It seems like so many people date just to date and I am not excluding myself, although I have been single for almost two years now because I simply refuse 'just to date', I cannot say I have always been wise. I have also been in a relationship where I did not put too much thought into, I just knew that I liked the guy and went into the relationship with him but now I can say that I am a lot wiser (by God’s grace). This post is about why I would never date for fun and I why I think everyone else shouldn’t.

Dating just for fun causes unnecessary turmoil and heartbreak

Relationships can go so many unexpected directions and to be honest before you date someone you can say you are dating just for fun all you want but the minute you are in that relationship you will have little control over what your heart feels. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." This scripture is so important; it tells us to GUARD OUR HEARTS, protect it, don’t let any Tom, Dick and Harry get a hold of it, keep it pure and in this case the best way to guard your heart is to avoid dating for fun. I do not believe God intended me to go around 'falling in love' with every cute guy that comes my way. I believe that there is one guy out there who I should marry and there are a lot of guys I shouldn't so why should I be interested in them if they're not the one? 

Be not deceived, Bad Company corrupts good character
I have made up my mind, I am not a Jesus fan, I am a Jesus follower. I seek to get God’s approval in all area of my life. It is important to me that if I get into a love relationship it glorifies God. I agree whole-heartedly with Apostle Paul when he says believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Look at it this way, hang out with spiritual losers and you will become a spiritual loser but WHOA, hang on this is not to say we should not have casual contact with unbelievers that is too extreme and definitely not what the bible teaches that would even be contradicting myself cause I do have unsaved friends and I love them to bits, they contribute to my awesome life. As harsh as it may sound thought having friends that are not born again has taught me that believers have nothing in common with unbelievers that is why we date should only date within the body of Christ. Date someone who understands God like you do. Date someone who understand what you go through… the good times….the tough times…the time of prayer… the times of rejoicing. Date someone that will help you grow in Christ, isn’t that the whole point? More of Christ? In fact I love how Maya Angelou puts it for the ladies, she says a women’s heart should to so hidden in Christ that a man has to seek Him just to find her.'. Going back to the heading, it so true just as the secret to dealing with peer pressure is to choose the right friends; the secrete to to having a relationship that will glorify God is to choose smart, date a man/women after God's own heart.

God's purity standards are high.
God asks us to save sex for the marriage bed (Hebrews 13:4). He also tells us to refrain from lustful thoughts (Matthew 5:28). These standards are easy to agree to when you're at a singles seminar at church or signing your pledge for purity note or a ladies conference but they are tough to stick to when your heart is fully engaged in a romantic relationship-TRUTH! Just ask the hundreds of Christian girls who suddenly found themselves pregnant. These aren't girls who don't love Jesus. They aren't girls who were not wishy-washy in their stand for purity. They are girls who got caught up in a romantic relationship too soon. The best way to guard your purity in the years before you are able to marry is to avoid unnecessary relationships all together in order to avoid romantic relationships all together.

 Timing is everything
I made a discovery about what the Song of Solomon says about time from another blog and found it so fitting for this topic/post, here we go:
Timing is everything.
Song of Solomon 2:7 says, "Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
Song of Solomon 3:5 says, "Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
Song of Solomon 8:4 says, "Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
What's up with the repetition? I think Solomon really wanted to make a point. The right person at the wrong wrong time is still the wrong person .

Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8 also tells us about time
"To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to reap that which is planted.
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to to mourn, and a time to dance.
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing.
A time to get and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace."

How do you know if the time is right? Wait to be released! If you find yourself having feelings for a guy/lady speak to your spiritual  leaders about it and have them tell you what do they think about the whole situation. They know you, they pray for you and they keep record of your spiritual progress so they will be able to tell you if you are ready for a relationship.They have been around for a long time so they will be able guide you in the right direction.

More important than your leaders is God, pray about it and ask God to shut down any door that he doesn't want you to enter. I have been doing this and it has been working out so well for me.