Wednesday, 28 November 2012

Attitude


This has been a very interesting year, I'm realising this is such a year of growth. We never stop learning and I am learning so much about life, people and myself. I am convinced if I didn't choose my ATTITUDE and how I approach life this year would have seriously swallowed me.

Attitude- It really is all about your attitude in life. How you see things and how you let things affect you. When you fail at something do you have a big pity party or do you see it as an opportunity to do it bigger and better.
When people tell you you cannot do something. Do you believe them? Or do you choose to look at it differently and prove them wrong?
When people are mean to you, do you chose to believe them or do you shrug it off, understanding that they're more than likely having a bad day themselves and probably projecting?

I often talk about choosing to be happy. It really is a choice in life. We can choose to let things affect us and keep us down, or we can choose to have a pity party (for a little bit) and then pick ourselves up and be stronger and better for it.
It is okay to have a bad day, gosh it's human. Sometimes it's a bad week or bad month or bad period of time, but as long as you can come out the other side better, knowing that there is always hope.

Believe in yourself, be kind to yourself and remember you are exactly where you are meant to be right  now. I am thankful for these little lessons.
Enlightening.












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Remember: When a person fails, it doesn't mean they are a failure. It only means the method they used was a failure.

Friday, 23 November 2012

Long-term relationships

I was watching a talk show the other day and a caller mentioned that she and her ex-boyfriend dated for nine (9) years and now she has been dating someone else for 6 months and they are already engaged, my jaw dropped when I heard that they had been together for nine years, I mean how on earth do people date for nine years?
As a young Christian trying to pursue the will of God in my life, seeking God’s best and direction I do not believe that casual dating for a long time is unacceptable. Think about it: Dating should have a purpose, which is MARRIAGE. I think that the primary goal of dating is to have fun with someone you have an interest in and at the same time to get to know someone in order to decide whether you think you could marry them. Dating someone you know you will never marry doesn't sound wise to me, it's just giving them (and yourself) the opportunity to fall deeper into a relationship that is not going anywhere. It is my belief that you can tell if someone is a keeper within the first two years (maximum time). I am a BIG BELIEVER in purpose and having a vesion in a relationship, Proverbs 29v18 is clear about this: Where there is no vision, people perish. I cannot imagine giving my heart, time and energy to someone for 9 years if they are not willing to commit to me.
It is my belief that money and a wedding do not have to be an issue when you have found the one you love, if you really want to make it happen you will. It amazes me how people will claim that they are not ready to get married but they have babies as if parenting is not a bigger responsibiliy  and MORE MONEY than marriage.Most of the time if a guy is not willing to ask the ‘BIG QUESTION’ it’s because he is already getting the husband benefits. Why milk a cow if the refrigerator, is filled with gallons/litres of milk? Without bring up the 'marriage topic', I believe it's important to know someone's vision for thier life before getting too emotionally involved in a relationship with them. 

What do you think about long term relationships?

Side note: As you can see, my blog looks TOTALLY different, I have Oluwaseun from MyStyledExpressions to thanks for that. She helped me out with just about everything, she designed the header and did everything in between. THANK YOU Oluwaseun xox!!


Thursday, 15 November 2012

Stuff Christian Singles Hear

This video really had me in stitches. It's so true, if you have been single long enough you have probably heard MOST of these statements, I know I have. I had to share it with you guys.

Have a good laugh: Stuff Christian Singles Hear

Found Here

P.S. If you are in a relationship, please stop saying these things to us  Single Christian ladies in your attempt to comfort us.Thanks.

Tuesday, 13 November 2012

Year of fear (not)

This year I found myself going through something I never thought that I would go through, fear and worry. I never thought fear would be something that I would struggle with because it seemed like the unChristian thing to have; I mean it’s the opposite of faith. When we fear we tell God that we really don’t trust Him or His guiding.
I struggled so badly with fearing death in my family. I struggled with fear of time passing by. I struggled with fear of losing my good health. I struggled with fear of my future, what if I don’t find a job?  I struggled with fear of not being accepted as I am. I struggled with fear of my safety, what if one day I walk down the street and someone attacks me?  If I don’t get a response from my loved ones I panic, what if this happened? What if that happened? Sometimes I could control this fear but other times it consumed me, even when my heart was at peace my mind constantly entertained ‘what ifs’. Life’s harsh circumstances taught me to TRUST NO ONE and although I believed God enough to follow him I did so while still wondering ‘what if it doesn’t work’.
What puzzles me is that when I look back on my life, I see God’s faithfulness. I had enough of the enemy playing mind games with me so I decided to give all my fears and worries to God cause one thing that I know for sure is that  I was not built to carry all this anxiety life throws at me and it was NOT easy cause I first had to admit that I have not been so 'faithful'.  I will never stop fear from creeping into my mind and I cannot say I am completely freed from fear and worry but I am taking baby steps. I am learning to LET GO, and LET GOD. Each day is a constant battle, I am learning to choose my thoughts DAILY, thoughts of peace and not thoughts of evil. I am learning to draw strength and confidence from God knowing that he will never give me what I cannot bear and that no matter whom or what I may lose in this life, GOD IS STILL THERE just as he has always been there. He has been faithful all along, why would HE stop now?
When such feelings overtake me, I remind myself of what the Lord instructs us to do: BE ANXIOUS FOR NOTHING but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made to God and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

I know I am not the only one struggling with fear, I pray that this will encourage someone to LET GO and LET GOD, cause really, we were not made to carry such anxiety. These are some of the scriptures and quotes that have helped me:


Monday, 5 November 2012

Thinking out loud

When I think about the individuals who have had a great impact upon my life I think about myself. I wonder if I have touched even a single individual in the ways that multiple people have touched mine. I hope so. I should have. I should be reaching out to others and loving them with the compassion of Christ. I am afraid that often I am so absorbed in myself that I don't do enough to ensure that I become absorbed in others. Proverbs 18:24 speaks about a friend that is always there. When you have made a mistake; this person is there. When you have succeeded; they are there. When you need him; they couldn't be closer. I want to be like that-to be irreplaceable in the lives of as many people as possible.

"There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother."—Proverbs 18:24.

Life is so short and time is fleeting. I want to be sure that I have touched someone with the love of Jesus Christ. I count myself as blessed and I want to make sure that I am blessing others as well. I desire to be a blessing to others as they journey through this thing called life. I want people to feel and know that because they know Cindy Saul they are better people. I desire that when people think about me, they think of someone that is a solution, not for my image but because I want people to see the Christ in me. I want to make sure that I am becoming more Christ-like. More concerned about loving, caring and impacting people. I hope that you want to reach out to others as well, may we all be friends that sacrifice our time and invest in the lives of the people around us