Out of all the personality traits Introverts suffer from the most misconceptions, we are labelled as being shy, lacking confidence, anti-social and lacking self-esteem. Being the introvert that I am I decided to clear up a couple of these misconceptions:
Tuesday, 2 October 2012
Misconceptions about us, Introverts
‘I said I am an introvert, I didn’t say anything about being shy’
I often say this to people. When I tell people that I am an introvert they expect me to be shy and lacking confidence but I am non of those things. I am not shy at all in fact I don’t even believe in shyness, I don’t see why I should let ANOTHER human being make me feel inferior. I have very strong ideas and I stand by every one of them. Introversion has nothing to do with being shy. We aren’t necessarily afraid of people. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you are socially awkward or shut-in it just means you get your energy from different sources than extroverts.
‘You are so anti-social’
This is probably the biggest misconception. Contrary to popular belief we do like being social just in a different manner and not as much as extroverts. We just love smaller intimate conversations; we love anything that involves deep conversations and are energised by discussing subjects that matter to us. We do not like communicating for the sake of filling silences. Personally. I loathe small talk. If you really want to engage an introvert in a conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them. It’s not that we think we are too important to talk to others. Extroverts thrive on small talk. Introverts abhor it.
Introverts are notorious for refusing generous offers to social engagements. We do appreciate the offers, trust me but we prefer small intimate gatherings over big and loud gatherings. I leave parties early and that doesn’t mean I didn’t have a good time, spending a long time in crowded places just drains me and I need to recharge after that. You can think of it in terms of entertainment. An extrovert needs outside stimulus to be entertained. Left alone and they start getting bored, they need things to entertain them whereas an introvert can entertain themselves. My mind is all the entertainment I need. I can sit for hours doing nothing but thinking and I’m having the best time.
‘You are so weird’
Since our social needs differ from the ones extroverts we are often seen as weird. Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. We don’t make decisions based on what’s popular or trendy.
In conclusion: We don’t need to be changedI dislike it when people think I should change and become extroverted, there is nothing wrong with my love for my alone time and I don’t need a ton of people to be happy. Nothing did this to me, I didn't go through some traumatic experience that has resulted in me wanting to spent less time with people. Introverts are fine just the way they are, we are not miserable, depressed or dejected. We were born this way, I actually consider myself very lucky to have been born an introvert. I love being so creative, and thoughtful, and contemplative. I wouldn't have it any other way, actually.