Tuesday, 2 October 2012

Misconceptions about us, Introverts

Out of all the personality traits Introverts suffer from the most misconceptions, we are labelled as being shy, lacking confidence, anti-social and lacking self-esteem. Being the introvert that I am I decided to clear up a couple of these misconceptions:
‘I said I am an introvert, I didn’t say anything about being shy’
I often say this to people. When I tell people that I am an introvert they expect me to be shy  and lacking confidence but I am non of those things. I am not shy at all in fact I don’t even believe in shyness, I don’t see why I should let  ANOTHER human being make me feel inferior. I have very strong ideas and I stand by every one of them. Introversion has nothing to do with being shy. We aren’t necessarily afraid of people. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you are socially awkward or shut-in it just means you get your energy from different sources than extroverts.

‘You are so anti-social’
This is probably the biggest misconception. Contrary to popular belief we do like being social just in a different manner and not as much as extroverts. We just love smaller intimate conversations; we love anything that involves deep conversations and are energised by discussing subjects that matter to us. We do not like communicating for the sake of filling silences.  Personally. I loathe small talk. If you really want  to engage an introvert in a conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them.  It’s not that we think we are too important to talk to others. Extroverts thrive on small talk. Introverts abhor it.


'You never go out and have fun'
Introverts are notorious for refusing generous offers to social engagements. We do appreciate the offers, trust me but we prefer small intimate gatherings over big and loud gatherings.  I leave parties early and that doesn’t mean I didn’t have a good time, spending a long time in crowded places just drains me and I need to recharge after that.  You can think of it in terms of entertainment. An extrovert needs outside stimulus to be entertained. Left alone and they start getting bored, they need things to entertain them whereas an introvert can entertain themselves. My mind is all the entertainment I need. I can sit for hours doing nothing but thinking and I’m having the best time. 
‘You are so weird’
Since our social needs differ from the ones extroverts we are often seen as weird. Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. We don’t make decisions based on what’s popular or trendy.
In conclusion: We don’t need to be changed
I dislike it when people think I should change and become extroverted, there is nothing wrong with my love for my alone time and I don’t need a ton of people to be happy. Nothing did this to me, I didn't go through some traumatic experience that has resulted in me wanting to spent less time with people. Introverts are fine just the way they are, we are not miserable, depressed or dejected. We were born this way, I actually consider myself very lucky to have been born an introvert. I love being so creative, and thoughtful, and contemplative. I wouldn't have it any other way, actually.

14 comments:

  1. everything you have said is soo true... i am a complete extrovert and i sometimes get uncomfortable around introverts but i have learnt to draw fro their well of strength... to assume all the above is ignorance. Nice post.

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    1. You have no reason to feel uncomfortable around us, LOL! It's all ignorance alright. Just be yourself as we are just ourselves.

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  2. Thank you for this post, you said it all! There's no point in trying to change someone I personally think the world needs both.
    As for me I don't define myself as either introvert or extrovert. I'm a social butterfly who cherishes her time alone, I don't think the world can rank me and that's perfect to me.

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    1. Coming from a social butterfly, I love it. You do you. Don't let anyone define you or rank you.

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  4. well said, i always stress out that i am not shy just an introvert but well when i talk people go "awwww she's shy!" ..i love my personal space and alone times, big crowds are a no! no! for me. i dont like small talk or talking just for the sake of filling in the silence, so they say am quite and unfriendly...so not true! and one thing that irritates some people about me is that i never enegage in heated arguments, my reaction to it is always a calm smile instead of retaliating...anyways you said it all and its so true, introverts are not shy, unfriendly,dejected, depressed and boring people we just the way we are...and i love it!! the creator made no mistake:D

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    1. WOW, you never geT into heated arguement? I love that, I am one introvert that loses it easily, I don't like it when people mess with me but through the help of the Holy spirt, I am learning to choose my battles. I am learning to let some things go. LOL

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  6. I love this post because I am also an introvert. Yes we get our source of energy from another source than extroverts. My mind is also my source of entertainment, if people knew what was going on in my brain they would know that I was having the best time of my life...hehe. I also love been an introvert, I love that I don't follow the crowd and I come up with great ideas from my alone time with God.

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    1. LOL, I know what you mean, I sometimes think my mind is Disney, a world of entertainment!! LOL

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