Monday, 10 September 2012

Relationship DEAL BREAKERS

Deal breakers are those things which we all happen to come across but we choose to ignore because we hope that the positive will outweigh the not-so-positive. Deal breakers are those things that will make you hate yourself for dating someone or staying with them because you do know that things could have been different if you didn't ignore them. They are actually a part of knowing yourself, I have them that is why I was able to stop myself from going into a wrong relationship. It is not really a list that I have; it is just characteristics that have become apparent over the years that I do not like. Everyone actually has them and they differ from individual to individual, some people have ridiculous deal breakers though like not dating someone because they don’t have a car, really now that is too shallow. We can’t critic someone based on where they are in their live, I say: LADIES BE THE CHEER LEADER OF YOUR MAN’S DREAM, he might surprise you in the future that is if he has any sense of ambition and the willingness to achieve his dreams. Or if they litter (which also drives me insane), but why break up with someone because they litter when you can just explain to him/her that you have major issues with it. I decided to write a couple of my own I am not going to get into the obvious like cheating, abusive, in a relationship with someone, controlling, lying omitting important information etc. nope, I am talking about things that make me cringe.

When will I declare myself out... 
1. If I have to go against, make it my vocation to show and say over and over what my boundaries are then clearly the guy doesn’t respect my values- DEAL BREAKER!

2. No passion in his life- DEAL BREAKER!

3. References to my body- TURN OFF! Like calling my behind an ‘ASS’.

4. If the following questions come up while I am getting to know a guy then it is a definite DEAL BREAKER, These are the questions that let you know what are a guy's intentions with you (sex). I call them pervert questions!

What color underwear are you wearing?
How do you kiss (you would be surprised)
What do you wear to bed?
What turns you on?

5. Religious difference- DEAL BREAKER! Apostle Paul is pretty clear on this one in 2 Corinthians 6:14 . Believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.

6. Negative and complaining A LOT- TURN OFF! Been there, done that, worn the T-shirt, not going back. I want to surround myself with positive people.

7.  Lack of Hygiene- TURN OFF!

8.  Disrespecting women in general- DEAL BREAKER!

9. If I find myself saying ‘it is okay’ too often when I know it really isn’t- DEAL BREAKER!

10. If he can’t manage his time or rather can’t make time for me-TURN OFF! If someone wants to be a part of your life, they will make the time.

11. If he wants to spend every second with me- TURN OFF! Get a life!

12. No respect for adults-DEAL BRAKER!

13. If he is not commited to having a personal relationship with God.


And those are my deal breakers, the things that will ensure that I sprint...


  1. i like your list. They mostly bother on respect for you and other people

  2. Great list. I've recently added lack of drive/vision for future - whether it be with career plans or future dreams in general.

    1. Most def!! No vision, no future! Even the bible says so. Where there is no vision, people perish. It's just a fact.

  3. Pretty good! At least you have a clear view of what it is that'll make you end the relationship. I don't think many Christians think about things like this. There needs to be a line where you're not willing to allow someone to come between you & God & the relationship with Him.

    1. Absolutely! I think eveyone should make a note of what they can take and can't take in a relationship or else we will settle for less.

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  5. This list is ace! I agree with everything ESPECIALLY the last one :)

  6. Replies
    1. THANKS you Kellsz, glad you think so!

  7. I like your list. I am already married but I made sure my husband had the qualities I was looking for in a man. There are things that annoy me, but when combining 2 lives you get that. My husband had a secret deal breaker I didn't find out about until a year after we got married. He is dealing with it now so life is sweeter.

  8. LOL... I couldn't help laughing at "secret deal breaker"... That sounds funny! You just made me realize that I could have deal breakers but there is a possibility of secret deal breakers but YOU ALSO give me hope when you say he is working on it!

  9. LOVED IT! Nicely written, it was a good read and I can totally identify with them!

  10. LOL! Sprint as fast as you can, Cindy! :)

    I agree with a lot of the things you've listed, but most importantly numbers 3, 4, 9, 10 and 13. Men that like to bring up the topic of #4 are just immature. I'm sure there are much more important things to discuss.

    I like your list though! :)

    1. LOL!! I am glad you agree. I man that has #4 should just disapper from my life, that is just a P.E.R.V.E.R.T!!

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  12. I love this one! I mean for real we women have to step up not just having that"I can change him/her" attitude! Another deal breaker is when a guy counts A LOT into what his friends say or think. Be independent and think on your own!
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