Dear 16 year old me.
Greetings from the future, I have a few things I need to tell you. Some you will want to hear (God has great plans for your life) and some you will not want to hear (you have verbal diarrhea) but these are the things I think you would want to know. I don't know where to begin though, you have been so brainwashed...
Discover the God of your being
I know you are on fire for God and sometimes it feels like you are the only one but don't let that stop you from following Christ. Don't be hesitant or ashamed to serve God boldly and ignore those people that think that you are taking this 'Jesus thing' too seriously. You will soon learn that the very same people that insist on making a mockery of your love for Christ are the first people that will run to you for prayers when they have problems. It is so critical that you develop a relationship with God. Your confidence and identity lies in Him. When you are not confident with who you are in Him it creates a sense of insecurity/instability in other areas. This uncertainty that you have about who you are in Him can create jealousy of others, this causes you to discredit what God is doing in your life and accuse Him of being unfair. Listen, God has plans for you. You were carefully and intentionally designed with a specific purpose in mind. It's so important that you sit at His feet and seek Him whole-heartedly to get to that purpose.
Your attitude matters
Cindy I know you think you have to say everything you are thinking but trust me, your opinion doesn’t always matter. Stop being be such a mean girl or rather calling 'a spade a spade' as you like to call it. It’s great to be honest and all but learn to be sensitive towards other people's feelings. You haven't made an effort to be nice to others and you take every chance to show that you know better. No one likes a ‘know it all’ so stop being such a 'know it all' and actually treat others like you want to be treated. Love a lot cause it turns out that love is pretty darn important, it’s the one emotion at the root of all things- even hate stems from love.
Speaking of LOVE
Those love affairs you see on TV and movies have brainwashed you. Get those thoughts out of your mind; you are nowhere near emotionally ready for a relationship. Get to know yourself in Christ first; Matthew 6v33 says we should seek first the Kingdom of God. I want you to study word for word how God sees you and I want you to begin to see yourself that way, you will be AMAZED to see how highly God thinks of you. Before you can get into a relationship you need to know your value, YOUR VALUE comes from God and God alone. There are so many things that God wants to teach you about love, TRUE LOVE, his love, how he purposed it to be between a man and a woman but He cannot do that if when you have all these distractions. So put guys aside for a long while and focus on your relationship with God. Don't allow yourself to get into unnecessary emotional relationships in other words; don't DATE JUST FOR FUN that is not God's desire.
Relationships can go so many unexpected directions and to be honest before you date someone you can say you are dating just for fun all you want but the minute you are in that relationship you will have little control over what your heart feels. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.". Engrave this scripture in your heart it, it will help you to choose your battles in the future as well, it is so important; it tells us to GUARD OUR HEARTS, protect it, shield your heart and spirit from that which is not of God., don’t let any Tom, Dick and Harry get a hold of it, keep it pure and in this case the best way to guard your heart is to avoid dating for fun. God did not intend for you to go 'falling in love' with every cute guy that comes your way, there is one guy out there who YOU should marry and there are a lot of guys YOU shouldn't. There will always be boys around you, but it's your job with God's help to filter through to meet MEN. Men who understand what it means to love God with all their heart because my darling, IF HE DOES NOT LOVE GOD, HE CANNOT LOVE YOU.
Remember this: We date because we see potential for marriage.
About your friendships
Love your friends, but don’t be sad if they drift away in the coming years. You will meet many more new friends at every stage of your life. Some of the old friends will come around again in surprising ways, and then before you know it, the new friends will be old ones too. Cherish the rich pageant of people you meet.
Just the way you are
If you ignore everything else in this letter, I want you to know this: You are just fine as you are, never try to change yourself for anyone or anything.
I Love you.
Older and much wiser you.
P.S About those blemishes, they will go away, it's just a phase. I know you think that is a cliche but trust me it will get better (strus bob), you are going to use a couple of wrong products for your face and it is going to get worse before it gets better BUT rest assured it will get better. Whenever you feel less pretty don't spend time in front of the mirror counting what is wrong, rather spend time in the mirror counting what is RIGHT, Nothing negative should come out of your mouth about yourself.
: Here is a picture of your face in a couple of years, NO PIMPLES, NO BLEMISHES, NO BLACKHEADS (and no, you don't have make up on):